Cheesy goodness

I must have blinked. It has already been three months since I’ve become a fully employed adult. I have a few drafts in my mind to fill the blogging gap, but for now I’ll share the one I’ve already written. I wrote it with “pen and paper” the night I moved into my new apartment. “Pen and paper” is just a theoretical phrase now, right? Who even does that anymore? 22-year-olds who don’t have internet at their new apartment yet. That’s who. I’ve had this in my Moleskine just waiting to be typed up for da blog and haven’t gotten to it. But here it is.

I might have just had the most delicious and satisfying meal of my life. It almost doesn’t matter that I say what it was, because I’m positive something this good could never be recreated. But I will– Lilly’s Pizza in Durham, their Five Points pizza. It know Lilly’s is fantastic because I’ve eaten at the Raleigh location, but this is at a whole new level. The most filling part that can’t be explained by flour or toppings is the feeling of accomplishment I have right now.

See, this morning I moved into my new Durham apartment. This signifies the day that I’ve truly and completely left the nest, as my parents have been excitedly chanting for the past 48 hours. I am so incredibly grateful for this position and phase of life that I am in. I feel so lucky to have my amazing support system of family and friends, and to be employed. I have the freedom to explore my interests and develop my hobbies while being financially independent and I am so damn grateful.

I feel like I’ve made it. Like I can finally sit down, enjoy a seriously well made slice of pizza (because that’s how you christen every new apartment or home), and appreciate the moment. All of the tension, stresses and worries that have ben holding me down, making it hard to think, they’re gone. I haven’t felt this free or in the moment in a long time.

Want a slice?


The adult we all want to be

Lately I’ve been taking time to catch up with friends I haven’t seen in a few months– not all of them, but at least a few. It’s been awesome to hear from them. I miss them all like crazy. I’m not hung up on it or anything, but sometimes when I have a quiet moment I miss the days when friends could appear minutes after receiving a text. Now they’re states and timezones away, or without technology in one case. For 99% of my friends, FaceTime and texting is a great way to get caught up. Very regulated letters for the one technology-less guy. He’s going through officer training with the Navy for the next couple of months.

In getting caught up with my friends, all of the conversations have steered towards being an adult and adjusting to grown up life. All of us have that perfect adult life that we aspire to. Here are some overlaps I’ve heard:

Unfazed by anything: So your favorite coffee shop only has half and half, but no nonfat milk? It’s all good. Your brand new apartment that is currently eating too much of your paycheck just busted a water leak? On it. Boss needs that slide deck in 15 minutes? No biggie.

Does productive things after work: That means at 5:01 p.m. you don’t go home and immediately nap or binge watch Netflix. You’re signed up for your city’s recreational kickball league, and your team happens to kick ass.

Has a cool hobby: Perhaps it’s cultivating an herb garden, or hiking every single state park on the weekends. Maybe you’re the most kickin’ knitter the world has ever met. Whatever it is, you have something that makes you happy and you stick with it.

Packs your own lunches: Some days it might be a peanut butter and jelly, in all its elementary school glory. But some days you go all out like those moms on Pinterest. You took the 10 extra minutes in the morning to pull something out of the vast wasteland that is your fridge and tied it up with a bow so mid-day zombie you might crack a smile. Also let’s talk about how much money that saves, because you’re a responsible adult with things like budgets.

Speaking of budgets…: You squirrel away every spare quarter and nickel you have so that one day, one day, you just might have enough to buy a new couch. Not that the blue stripe and stain patterned one from Craigslist isn’t great, but it’s time for an upgrade. Something a little more “you.”

Oh, and you have a style: Your apartment emits personality waves. All those DIY projects and hours spent moving furniture one inch to the left paid off to make the space your own. Your wardrobe? A carefully curated balance of mom’s vintage jewelry, investment coats, business casual and trendy pieces. It is so essentially you that you don’t actually need a monogram necklace to tell people who you are. …Do people still wear those? #sratlife

Takes pictures: It’s completely possible that a month will pass by and you’ll have been so busy you won’t realize it’s been a month. But luckily, you’re be the kind of adult who keeps mementos, takes pictures, and journals/blogs regularly. That way, you’ll have something to reminisce upon when life feels like a blur. You’ll have something to show your parents/kids/S.O./parrot (I don’t know your life) when you’re talking about the good times.

Confident: You don’t need a ThoughtCatalog article to tell you, “Yes, you’re a twentysomething, and you’ll probably be okay!” You got this, and you know it.